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The more we lose the real, the more we need it

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The more we lose the real, the more we need it

On turning away from the artificial, and back towards ourselves

Look at your phone. Scroll for a moment. A face appears – beautiful, confident, eloquent. Is it a person? A performance? A programme? You are not quite sure. And this small uncertainty costs you something. A piece of your trust in what is real. It happens so often now that you barely notice the loss.

But something inside you notices. Something old and quiet and not easily fooled. Our brains are extraordinarily sensitive instruments. They register, below the level of conscious thought, when something is not quite right – when a face has never lived, when a landscape has never existed, when a piece of art carries no memory of a human hand. The unease is subtle. But it accumulates.

The more our world fills with the artificial – artificial images, artificial voices, artificial connections, artificial flavours – the more that deep, animal part of us begins to hunger. Not for more. For less. For the irreducibly real.

What hangs on your wall?

Walk into your home and look at what surrounds you. If a screen-generated image decorates your wall, consider what it is asking of you – and what it cannot give. It was made in seconds, by a process that has experienced nothing: no grief, no joy, no morning light through a particular window, no years of learning to see.

Instead, find something painted by a real person. It does not need to be an original. A print is fine, a postcard pinned above a desk is fine. What matters is that somewhere, a human being stood before a blank surface and tried to say something true. That intention travels through the image. We feel it, even when we cannot name it. And living with art that carries genuine human meaning is quietly different from living with art that does not.

The blank page is waiting

Better still – make something yourself. Buy a small sketchbook and go outside. You do not need talent. You do not need training. Nature journaling asks only that you sit down somewhere in the living world and try to pay attention to it: a leaf, a cloud, the particular way light falls on water this afternoon and no other.

Or write. A few lines, a few sentences, whatever comes. Jung understood that the inner life, left unexamined, does not disappear – it merely becomes louder and less legible. Writing is how we listen to ourselves. And when we write, we are not consuming. We are making. That is a profound and underestimated distinction.

‘Depth of attention is the rarest and purest form of generosity.’ ~Simone Weil

The stolen hours

Cal Newport has written about what he calls deep work: the capacity to focus without distraction on something cognitively demanding, something that creates real value. It is a capacity we are losing. The average person now spends several hours each day moving their thumb across a screen, receiving small jolts of stimulation, absorbing almost nothing. The phone wins because it is designed to win. We are not weak – we are outmatched.

But we can choose differently. An hour each morning before the phone is touched. A walk without headphones. An evening in which the screen stays dark and something real is done with the hands or the mind. These are not sacrifices. They are recoveries.

Start with one pot of soil

You do not need a garden. A pot, some compost, a tomato seedling, and a few minutes of attention each morning – that is enough to begin. Something shifts when you grow even a small amount of your own food. You start to notice the light. You feel the seasons again. You remember that you are part of a living world that was here long before screens.

Think, too, about what you eat. Ask yourself gently: what did I eat today that came from the earth, rather than a factory? The question is not an accusation. It is an invitation. A farm shop, a market, a single vegetable you did not buy in a plastic tray – each small choice is a quiet act of return.

What can I do?

As a nurse, I spent years watching people arrive at the door of the healthcare system and ask: what are they going to give me? What tablet, what operation, what referral will fix this? I understood it – when we suffer, we want someone to take the problem away. But I also saw, again and again, how much power people did not know they had.

The woman who walks thirty minutes every morning, who loses a little weight, who notices her knees aching less – she may never need the operation her mother needed. No headline will celebrate this. No one will tell her she has done something remarkable. But she will feel it in her own body, as a quiet and durable kind of freedom.

This is not about blame. It is about agency – the extraordinary, undervalued human capacity to act differently today than we did yesterday. The question is not what are they going to do for me? The braver, more interesting question is: what am I going to do for myself?

There is a kind of evening we have forgotten

It involves walking somewhere unhurried, noticing the light on the water, arriving somewhere warm with a friend, and talking – really talking. Without the numbing alcohol haze that too often turns an evening into something we half-remember. We have confused stimulation with pleasure, and sedation with rest. A walk by the canal costs almost nothing. And what it gives you – that sense of being genuinely present in your own life – is something no algorithm can replicate.

What is one thing – just one – you could do today to move slightly closer to the real? One real food. One real conversation. One real step outside. One page written by hand.

Write it down somewhere. Not on your phone.

The world is still out there

The canal is still there. The soil is still dark and full of life. The birds are singing the same songs they always have, indifferent to the algorithms. Your body still knows how to walk, to breathe cold morning air, to feel the particular satisfaction of using your hands to make something real.

The artificial world makes itself very loud precisely because it needs your attention to survive. The natural world is quiet because it does not need anything from you. It simply is. And when you step into it – even for a few minutes, even just onto a patio with a pot of soil, even just to sit by a window and write a sentence – something in you exhales.

You remember what real feels like.

And you want more of it.

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If these reflections speak to you, you can receive occasional letters from the living world.

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